I fully agree with teaching your child bodily autonomy and all about consent and being allowed to refuse hugs or any physical touch when they don’t want, but it also sounds like you may be taking bodily autonomy too far, in that you’re giving her complete control — by trying to reason with a 3-year-old about bedtime and clothing. That’s not simply autonomy, that’s not having routine and rules in place and allowing her to thwart you — by refusing to go to bed and then just scream-singing for an hour. That’s just blatant saying no to your bedtime rule, not simple autonomy.

At what point is never saying no under the guise of autonomy too far?