How to Deal with the Haters

Negative backlash is inevitable when writing about controversial topics.

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Any time you do something even minimally controversial, there will be “haters.” Those who say something negative or in some way try to tear you down — whether they disagree with your content, your ideals, your passions, or you as a person.

It can be difficult to separate that from yourself, knowing and trusting that what you’re doing is the right thing and remember why you are so passionate about it.

But in the face of internet trolls and hatred, just know that if it wasn’t important no one would care. No one would be positive or negative about you, because you wouldn’t be on their radar.

But of course, it is not that easy.

I got my first taste of backlash on my newest project, “You Are Not Alone. True Stories of Sexual Assault, Abuse & Harassment From Around the World.”

I am so genuinely proud of this book and of the amazing, incredible contributors who freely gave their stories, in their own words, of their experiences.

They stood up to speak out and try to help others know that they are NOT alone and that there is light at the end of the tunnel — surviving and thriving.

All of the feedback I have gotten so far has been so overwhelmingly positive, i just knew this was the right thing for me to do.

Of course, one negative comment doesn’t change that. I know in my heart I was meant to do this.

But it did give me pause.

What if people think I am exploiting people’s pain? What if they think I am just trying to profit off of trauma? What if they don’t see my compassion and why I really did this?

It started a negative loop in my head.

But all I can do is continue to plow forward, knowing that I have a genuine want to help people, to keep the conversation going.

Knowing that the contributors — many of whom had NEVER told their story before — felt catharsis and healing through the writing process.

Knowing that I have a soul-deep passion for helping people in the only way I know how — through writing and putting it out there.

It can be hard to compartmentalize and put aside the negativity…but it is necessary.

Have you dealt with negative backlash? How did you deal with it? Any advice?

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