Exploring My Feminine Side

I smell so freaking good.

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I don’t know that I’d call my young and adult self a full-on tomboy, but I have always been a jeans-and-t-shirt, no-daily-makeup gal.

I never actively ignored or disliked feminine things. I happily wore dresses to nice events and was super excited about picking out my prom dress and getting my hair and nails done.

But on a day-to-day basis for my entire life, I have been in jeans (or jean shorts), a t-shirt, and had a baggy hoodie in my car for when I inevitably get cold.

And there were things I just didn't get.

I wasn’t ever into makeup. From when I was maybe 14 to 30, I owned a mascara and a couple of lipsticks for when I dressed up, but it never even occurred to me to wear them (or more) every day. I’d simply rather sleep longer than have time for makeup in the morning.

I never lit candles in my house (unless something actually smelled bad and I wanted to cover it up, haha). I just didn’t see the point.

I used plain shampoo and Dove soap and didn’t see the point of buying fancy scrubs or soaps outside of the nice-smelling gifts I would sometimes get (and use and enjoy!).

I understood that people enjoyed those things, and I never begrudge them that.

I just never even thought about any of those things myself. It just wasn't on my mind.

Things I Tried

Every few years for my entire adult life (I am 37 now), I have tried to become someone a little more feminine.

A dress person.

A scarf girl.

A belt gal.

A floppy hat lady.

I’d see a really cute casual dress and think “I could be a dress wearer,” and buy a few dresses. I’d wear them for a week or two, then they’d be put on a shelf and forgotten about. The same thing happened in 2022 but with skorts (skirts with shorts underneath).

In the early 2000s, everyone was wearing skinny scarves. I wanted to do that; I thought it looked cute on other people. I bought and made scarves (I do love DIY and crafts!). I think I wore a skinny scarf once or twice and never again.