Elle, thank you so much for your kind words and sharing some of your own experience. I agree, it is deeply personal and frustrating and disappointing, but at the same time, somewhat hopeful, too in a weird way.
Belated congrats on your adoption, I hope your kid knows how lucky he/she is to have been chosen by someone as caring as you. Because that’s what adoption is, choosing on purpose to bring a new life into your family. :)